BDSM Fashion

Picking it as a present

A harness is a surprisingly safe gift, because the buckles adjust and you don't need exact measurements. If you're unsure about size, the CalExotics Euphoria halter harness also comes in a plus size version. For a first purchase together, the cat ear headband is the low-stakes option. It's light-hearted, comfortable and a good way to find out how you both feel about a bit of role play before investing in more. Buying for yourself? The Scandal lace bodysuit works on its own and looks just as good layered under a harness.

Fit and care, briefly

Straps should sit snugly, but you should be able to slide two fingers underneath. Anything tighter can press on nerves or restrict circulation, which the Burnett Foundation warns against in any kind of bondage. Latex and wet-look pieces dull quickly and can stick to themselves in storage. A shine spray like the one from Eros restores the gloss. Spray it on the outside of the clean, dry garment and buff with a soft cloth. Keep latex away from sunlight and loose metal. Once the outfit is sorted, a whip is the classic finishing touch for photos and play alike.